Wedding ceremony

The time finally arrived when I would complete my duties as mother of the bride and escort my daughter down the aisle. Fattima is a huge Carrie Underwood fan and has been to 3 or 4 of her concerts. She chose to have Mama’s song by Carrie Underwood playing as we made our walk. 42402412_10157049029180101_1331384753034625024_n

The words hold great meaning for us and as we listened  over the years we never imagined that this day would really come! We talked and walked carefully through the grass until we reached a seating area just down the hill. I hugged Ben and took my place on a bench in front.


A priest performed the ceremony and gave wonderful insights into love and the merging of two people of different faiths. 42391160_10157048983060101_5372222094010482688_n (1)

Guests were asked to surround the couple during a prayer, offering them support in this journey. It was lovely and very heartfelt. 42362266_10157048977140101_6077035547363115008_n1-e1538178967997

Meanwhile our two little boys (the ring bearers) walked in and out of vines and down the hill just behind Fattima and Ben. They slowly took their suspenders off and played quietly, adding a beautiful and sweet element to this union. Bennett was tired of playing and decided to come forward. He stood near his aunties who were serving as bridesmaids and whispered, “Dee Dee, Dee Dee” and then called for auntie “Maya” as well. Aiden took his place behind his daddy (a groomsman) also quietly talking to him. It was priceless watching them, allowed to roam near the wedding party and take their place in this new family. Before the wedding Ben remarked that the next day he would truly become an uncle. I am sure Bennett, Aiden and Alayna smirked, knowing it had been true all along.

As soon as the couple walked out they took more pictures and then returned where guests were waiting for brunch. 42453954_10157048977980101_2657705146921779200_n (1)Food was served followed by toasting, dancing and a cool breeze.

The first dance was reserved for the bride and groom and they danced to So close

The five brothers took turns dancing to Whenever you remember 

The boys were unsure about dancing but in the end they switched off and made it special. Little did we know that Heme would come through and make a dramatic ending to this brother-sister dance.  He eagerly cut in and took over after Mude.  Everyone laughed and clapped and enjoyed his performance! Fattima dipped her youngest sibling and the dance came to a close!

Ben and his mother danced and then his father stepped in. His Grandparents                      won the dance for the longest years married and then the dance floor was                            opened up for everyone.

The couple cut their cake and visited with guests. IMG_20180923_130956 (1)

While the wedding was elegant in every way it was also practical and relaxed. There were over 60 children present and all were welcome to color and play games that had been placed at kids tables and of course the highlight was a visit to Fattima and Ben’s candy shoppe!IMG_0391

Ben’s grandfather offered to take the newlyweds from the wedding to the hotel. But first my boys wanted to take a look at the car he had renovated. It was he and his beautiful wife’s first new vehicle and had been left behind years before. With care, skill and love it was restored to its glory days. Heme and his brothers took a look at this magnificent vehicle.

Everyone gathered to see this cool ride and waved as they drove off!

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Wedding day

Thank you for your patience. I am glad I divided the wedding posts into several days and  will finish up tomorrow with more about the ceremony and reception.

Sunday morning 8 a.m.
We picked the girls up from the hotel and drove to the wedding venue where we found Ben’s family waiting. Yusuf and Alicia came shortly after and we unloaded cars, hauled boxes and sorted through items to figure out where they needed to be placed. Scott (Ben’s brother and best man) and Toni, his fiancee had already set up the candy bar. This was so helpful and it was one less thing on our list. By the way, the candy bar was the most popular table at the wedding!

Centerpieces were placed on each table by Ben’s mother and father and the guest book table was also completed at that time. The girls went directly to the bridal suite and prepared for the wedding. This was captured by their professional photographer and I am excited to see these photos!
The two younger sisters helping out

I spent my time downstairs directing traffic as my kids trickled in and were assigned jobs to help get everything ready. Osama arrived with the kids and buckets of flowers while Yusuf and Alicia put together a beautiful dessert table.IMG_0415 (1)


The little boys objected to wearing their wedding clothes and in particular suspenders and “mommom” (me) produced a toy that might have become more of a menace but at least took attention off of bow ties, slacks and little black shoes!IMG_0403

Everyone took turns holding the bouquet, Alyana and the boys!

It was then announced that it was time for the “first look”. I had never heard of this tradition before but Fattima filled me in on what appears to be a common practice. The groom waits for the bride, she walks up behind him and taps on his shoulder and he gets to see his bride for the first time in her gown. We were invited to watch this moment and it was priceless!

After the first look we continued with our set up as well as adding more family pictures! Five brothers from oldest to youngest.

Although this is not the best picture I had to post it as I think it best illustrates the glitter and glam of Fattima’s princess dress.


A thousand cupcakes


Months back when we were just starting this blissful journey, Foof and I decided we would make pastries for the wedding. A gorgeous cake has been ordered from Mom and Dad’s favorite place but we wanted to add some flare and do something a bit different. We were supposed to get together numerous times to work on this project but it just never happened. So, today is the day! How many cupcakes will we make and what flavors?